For many of us, the annual tradition of Gay Pride has been both a time of reflection on gay history and struggles and a celebration of important milestones and achievements.
by Paula Smith. Fellow LGBTQ community members often approach me for advice on dating, which within this limited pool can seem like navigating a minefield, but can also be fun and very exciting. Personally, I’ve been on over 100 dates. I have fallen in love, had my heart broken and, at times, been made to […]
by Paula M. Smith, M.Div., MFT Hey Paula, I recently terminated an over five-year relationship that turned out to be unhealthy, leaving behind a trail of trust issues and feelings of damage. I want to move on, and feel I am making progress, but can’t seem to shake the deep, innate sense of hurt and pain from […]
Dear Paula, I am a trans male. I was seeing a therapist who seemed really nice. I didn’t have anyone else in my life. He coerced me into having a sexual relationship with him that lasted two years. I’m now confused about my sexuality because he told me that I liked men, even though I […]
by Paula Smith. Hello, LGBTQ community! Let me introduce myself. My name is Paula Smith, and I’m grateful to Options for the opportunity to share my experience, wisdom, expertise, and advice with you on a variety of important issues related to LGBTQ life including: culture, spirituality, sexuality, parenting, abuse, 12-step recovery, marriage, and relationships. So […]